Many parents whose kids have flown the nest are thinking of downsizing or have downsized (and have the storage unit to prove it). Moving to smaller quarters means making a million decisions, not the least of which is what to save for the children and what to save the children from.
Discernment counseling brings honest feelings to the surface. It establishes whether one side really has no interest in reconciliation, prefers the status quo—as disruptive and conflicted as it may be—or if everyone is committed to making things better.
he first step is accepting the fact that addiction is a disease, one that often runs in families. It shouldn’t be a moral issue, but parents feel so much shame and guilt when the subject comes up that their first response is often incredulity and denial.
First be aware of your own agenda and frustrations. Examine your motives and challenge your certainty that what you know to be best may not be best for your child. Nurture yourself internally; you are in a true dilemma of instinctively wanting to protect your child while not being able to.